Tuesday, March 03, 2009

Attitude is Everything

The following is the text of a speech I delivered to Porcupine Toastmasters on Feb. 24. Can you believe I actually enjoy doing this?

Good evening fellow toastmasters and guests.

I stand before you tonight, a man who, until recently, felt frustrated with his lot in life. For a long time my mind was a jumbled mess of negative and self-defeating thoughts. It was as though my feet were stuck in quicksand – no matter how hard I tried to move forward, I just couldn’t get ahead.

After much soul-searching, I came to the conclusion that I was my own worst enemy, that I was the one holding myself back. My intentions were good, I worked hard, and I was honest, but that just wasn’t even enough. Problem was, deep down, I just didn’t believe that I could be successful.

I’ve made a decision, therefore, that 2009 will be a year of change for Jeff Mackie. I’m on a mission, not to find myself, but rather to re-create myself. And the more people who know about my desire to be a better person, the better. That way, my feet will be held to the fire, so to speak.

Tonight I’m going to share with you some of the little things I’m doing differently. On their own, they won’t change my life, but when combined, I’m confident they’ll give me a powerful new outlook.

First of all, I took the advice of sales guru Jeffrey Gitomer, and wrote a personal mission statement and placed it above my desk, where I see it every day. This statement has started me on the road to discovering my purpose for being on this earth. So here it is:

I am Jeff Mackie

I am a father…
I will encourage my children and help them develop self-confidence

I am a husband…
I will treat my wife like my best friend
I will shower her with affection

I am a friend…
I will treat all my friends as though they’re my best friend

I am an entrepreneur…
I will never miss an opportunity to approach someone about a business partnership, for what I have to offer is of great benefit. And when they become customers, I will treat my customers like gold

I am an amazingly positive person…
I will smile often
I will make people laugh
I will sincerely complement others
I will be the person everyone remembers AND
I will be a voracious reader of positive books

I am a hard worker…
I will work when I don’t feel like working AND
I will make good decisions with my time

I am healthy…
I am committed to being a healthy and happy person, both physically and mentally AND
I will exercise my mind, body and spirit on a regular basis

I am Jeff Mackie

Repeating my mission statement over and over again while rehearsing for this speech has really crystallized it my mind. I’m really glad I decided to share it with everyone.

Moving right along, I followed the advice of author and speaker T. Harv Eker, and wrote out a list of 10 things I’m grateful for. I read this list out loud every day. The rationale behind the list is this: until you are truly grateful for what you have, the universe will not give you anything more. Here’s my list of the 10 things I’m grateful for:

1) I am grateful for my wife’s unconditional love.

2) I am grateful for a healthy and happy little boy.

3) I am grateful that my health has improved in recent years.

4) I am grateful that our home is warm and comfortable.

5) I am grateful for my parents support.

6) I am grateful to be Canadian.

7) I am grateful for the love and support of great friends.

8) I am grateful to be living in northern Ontario.

9) I am grateful for the education I’ve received throughout my life.

10) I am grateful for the opportunity to write about hockey – and get paid for it.

That’s my gratitude list. If you don’t already have one, you should. It just takes a few minutes. Say it aloud to yourself at least once a day. Trust me, it will help you feel better about yourself.

Well, I’ve shared with you my mission statement and gratitude list, and now I’m going to share a few other important techniques with you.

First of all, at the end of the day, I highly recommend that you conduct a debrief of your day. Write down one thing that went right, and one thing that went wrong. Then, write the answers to the following question: How did I create each of these situations?

You see, we’re all responsible for own actions, and the actions we take are responsible for the results we get. It’s pretty simple, really. This exercise is an invaluable tool for helping you take personal responsibility for your actions. And it takes just 5 minutes.

Here’s another technique that will help you control your negative thoughts. It might sound a bit crude, but believe me it works. Whenever you catch yourself saying something negative, do this. Whenever we think and say negative things, we’re essentially slitting our throats financially. Now this doesn’t mean we can’t offer constructive criticism, or stand up for ourselves if we’re being taken advantage of. But we do have to pay attention to our tone and body language.

Let me ask everyone a question: Do you want others to think of you as a negative person? I bet the answer for everyone is no. Therefore, we must always be aware of the attitude we’re presenting to others.

There’s no shortage of books to read on the subject of attitude. I’ve mentioned just a couple of them, but there are countless others. In conclusion, I encourage you all to pay more attention to your attitude. Learn how to think more positively. You’ll feel better about yourself – and if done correctly – you’ll be rich before you know it.


Blogger Ame said...

wow! it seems with age comes with wisdom and confidence. I, too, was my worse enemy, but I have come to learn to become my best friend. Thank you for your words!

9:40 PM  

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